It is in the middle of the night and as you leave your friends after supper, you ask yourself why did you park your car in somewhere so dark and secluded in the first place. At the corner of your eye, you see this half drunk man sitting by the sidewalk, tracing you as you walk by. It wasn’t long before you start hearing evident footsteps behind you. It gets louder and louder until you can hear the drag in each footstep. There was no one around. Just silence. Then a heavy hand landed on your shoulder.
That moment you fear most is here. Your heartbeat increases so rapidly you can hear it thumping hard against your chest. You feel a little light-headed as your limbs tremble, and somehow at certain moments everything seem to be happening ever so slowly.
You have felt this before, isn’t it? Some people court it through sports, others experienced it through actual stressful situations. This is the “fight-or-flight” mode that is activated as one of the key vital defence your body is programmed with. Biologically, your body releases the hormone adrenaline, or also known as, epinephrine, into your bloodstream – within seconds.
Now you are going through what is commonly known as an adrenaline rush. It has a lot of benefits in this mechanism but as with any tools, you need to know how to use it, which brings us into topic of your number 1 priority, your alpha focus is to survive.
Do what you must, during this period of time to survive. Your job isn’t to be Batman and go apprehending these criminals. You are not a superhero, and you do not need to be a gentleman about this of any sort. Remember the 4 stages that we have previously covered? Disengage and escape at the soonest time possible.
Therefore, in self defence, use any techniques, tools and your environment to your advantage with the main focus of surviving. For example, hitting the vitals with the recommended contact points, then put as much distance as possible between you and your aggressor. Other tools you can consider are things like your wallet, your watch – either use it to surrender or throw at a distance such that it require your aggressor to pick it up. That way it creates distance and shift in focus in your aggressor and in turn creates that small window of your opportunity to escape. Notice, we said escape and not engage – if possible at all. You can also hurt objects directly at your aggressor to startle him a little and create that shift in focus.
The brain rarely can handle two things at one time. So if your aggressor is busy watching how the object is flying towards him, he has very little ability to react when you jump in with a front kick or smashes his armed hand into the wall. It is the same trick we do on kids by pointing elsewhere and shout to distract them.
We won’t go into details on how to use your environment to your advantage in this post so stay tuned to future posts. But the whole idea is to get as much advantage as you can – so that you can survive. Get as much distance as possible between you and any potential dangers. It could be as simple as having a table between you and the aggressor, or a car door, or a pillar.
Again, there’s no cowardice when it comes to a self defence situation. Run, hide, hit the vitals, trick – do anything and everything, just to survive. And when the rubber hits the road, a non-vital cut on you is better than a stab. A non-vital stab on your thigh is better than a stab into the chest or abdomen.
You get the drift.
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